As for friends, I made excuses so I wouldnt hang out with them in the weekend because I really just wanted to stay home, and chill. It was relaxing. No one to bother.

but you then realize things are going to fast. Friends drift away, and you end up being someone who barely talks with your friends. Hang out with them more. What really encouraged me to go outside was my friend's bribery. they treated me to pizza or chinese food.. Sometimes I went to places I've never gone and never thought I've ever go. Once Im there, Im having the time of my life.

Its a matter of Mental force. Did you have anything that was so stressing ( other than just the normal school ) like.. STAR testing, or SAT's or so?
Testing or a big event really makes me lazy the next day.

Procrastination plays a big DEAL in your situation.
Especially if you hang around in the computer alot.
If you're a senior in highschool.
well
hah.. thats just a thing called Senioritus


Posted at 6:47 pm on May 13, 2008

The first step, of course, is to realize that there is a problem, the second is to realize why the problem is there, the third is to want to do something about it, and the fourth is to actually do something about it.

1. You know that there is a problem. Apathy is not a fun place to be. There is nothing wrong with wanting to please others so long as you do not compromise with the standards that you are held to - if you are a Christian, those standards are God's standards, if you are not, then your own, whatever those may be. I will not spend so much time on this as you already recognize the problem. Some questions that you may want to ask yourself -
- Why is this a problem?
- What are the potential negatives that will come if I choose to ignore this problem?
- How serious of a problem is it?

These are questions that I want you to think over and answer. After you have done so, then you move on to step two.

2. Realize why the problem is there. In order to put out a fire, cure a disease, or get rid of a disgusting smell, you have to find out what has caused the problem in the first place. What is the source of the fire? If you do not take care of the source, you can fight all you want at the flickering top of the blaze, but the fire will continue on blazing until it has consumed the house that you are trying to save. You can take as many aspirin pills as you want, but until you find out what is causing the disease, deadening the pain won't save you. And spraying as much sweet smelling aromas around as you wish will only mask the problem, but once the aroma is gone, the smell is still there. Some questions to ask -
- What is causing the apathetic feelings?
- Is it something that I can or could control?
- Towards what things am I apathetic towards?

3. You have to want to do something about the problem or step two is a complete waste. A group of police officers can sit inside and talk about all the gangs around the neighborhood and the bar fights, the robberies, the speeders and the drug addicts, but until the determine to do something about it they are simply wasting their time. Do you want to do something about this problem?
- Why is this problem worthy addressing?
- What are the benefits of taking care of the problem?
- What are some ways that I can think of to take care of the problem (this will tie directly in with #2)
- What action plan can I built to take care of the problem?

4. Do something about it! It may be that some of your friends are not speaking with you, or you have lost interest in the things that you are doing or the friends that you are hanging out with. Whatever it is, it is driving you into a state of apathy, and you need to do something about it. Determine to act on the answers that you came up with in #3. It may involve politely addressing someone on an offense that they have committed against you. It may involve making a new set of friends, or trying out new things until your interest is peaked again. It may involve getting involved with your family, or something else.

I hope this helps - if you are a Christian I have further advice that I can offer to you that will prove to be of a great help, please let me know.

Either way, Christian or not, my PM is always open.
ForChrist


Posted at 6:45 pm on May 13, 2008