You just need to sit them down and tell them.

Posted at 8:08 pm on June 25, 2008

First off, do you know for sure that you are pregnant?  Have you taken a home pregnancy test?  If so, then you may want to further confirm it with a professional - just to be 100% sure.

For information on pregnancy tests, you can take a look at:

Home Pregnancy Tests

Key Signs of Pregnancy

Am I Pregnant?

Secondly, how old are you?  A baby is a lot of work.  You need to be old enough and mature enough in order to be able to take care of the child.

For more information on how to deal with pregnancy and child bearing, visit:

Pregnancy and Childbearing Facts

I know it may be extremely difficult to tell your parents about this kind of situation.  You have to understand, parents are always worried about their children and they always want the best for them - despite what it seems like at the time you tell them.

Have you discussed this with the father?  Does he know?  How is he taking it?  Is he going to be there for you and support you during the time of your pregnancy and then eventually help you raise the child?  

If he does really love you and is willing to be by your side no matter what, then that is great.  Single mothers have an extremely hard time raising a child on their own - especially if the mother is extremely young.  It will not only be hard financially but also emotionally and physically.  What makes matters worse is if you don't have the support from your parents.  That's why I think talking to them about the situation and being completely open and honest with them is an excellent idea.  Trust me, parents are here to help you!  They love you a lot and just want to see you happy.

However, if the father is not planning on staying with you, then things will be a little bit harder for you.  In this case, you're going to have to look to your parents and close friends for help and support to get you through this time.  Being a single, young mother is extremely difficult.

It also seems like this guy is up to some trouble.  This is why I can see where you're going - your parents will not approve because he's a high school drop-out, gangster, does drugs and has been incarcerated before.  Personally, to me, this does not sound like a guy who will be willing to do whatever it takes to help you raise this child.  It's truly unfortunate if he does not have any intentions of helping you through this time.  

I don't know if you should really get involved with this guy anyway.  I mean, even if he is indeed willing to stay with you and help you raise this child - what will happen if he goes to jail again?  You'll be left alone with the baby to raise all by yourself.  This guy seems to be up to no good and you deserve a lot better.

But, I would strongly recommend that you talk to your parents about the situation.  First, find out for sure that you are indeed pregnant.  Then, get the father and have a chat with your parents and his.  I think both your family and his family should be involved if you both actually want to make this work - together.  

Just remember that your parents are always there to help you and they truly want what's best for you.

I hope I've helped.

If you ever need anything else, feel free to message anytime.  My inbox is always open!

Good luck!

~ Sabrina

Posted at 6:50 pm on June 24, 2008