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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 1:02 pm on June 25, 2008 Return to Inbox
Subject: it's become routine
i would have posted this on the forums but you never get a decent reply.. so answer the more important ones before this one.

so anyway.. i've been with my boyfriend for just over 4 months now, and i'm really happy with him and I really love him.. but.. recently.. everything seems as though it's become routine. the excitement has died down a little.

you know.. like the inital feeling you get when you start a new relationship when everything is fresh and new. the time I spend with him is still lovely, but I want  a bit more excitement.

I guess I just want suggestions of how to liven it all up again?p> .

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Do something out of the ordinary. Go somewhere you've never been, do something you've never done. Being an avid rock climber, I'm inclined to tell you that you should go rock climbing. It's a blast, but anyway, don't just settle for the same old thing. If either of you has a way to get around, it would be easier to find something different to do. Try talking to him and not saying you're bored, just say you want to do something new and exciting. He should be understanding.

Posted at 10:36 am on June 27, 2008
Do something spontaneous. Want to know why? The fact you have gotten into a routine, it's starting to bore you a little (even though you still love spending time with him). Maybe the two of you need to go out, do something different and mix it up a bit because getting into the same old routine can cause you to become bored of the relationship and that isn't what you want.

One way to make it more exciting, maybe go somewhere out of the blue one night. Do something you have never done before and see how it all ends because you need to break this routine and the way to do that is change how it goes.
A double date, this can make it more interesting as you can mix up the conversation and can also have little arguments over each others ideas. Also it can be a fun way to spend time with your boyfriend and a friend at the same time.
Another thing might be not seeing each other for a few days, and then suddenly seeing them, as you know what they say the heart grows fonder and all that.
Have a surprise for him, as surprises can often make things interesting between a couple and also it can make you wonder whether they will like it and then you will see there expression.
Maybe send and out of the blue text, saying something sweet and cute, send something that you don't expect a reply to. It can put a smile on the other persons face to know you are thinking of them and also seeing a partners name come on your phone screen, it never sucks! Just make sure you don't do it late at night when the other person might be asleep. Maybe leave a text for them to wake up to, you will be on there mind for the rest of the day.

To be honest you just need to find something which will break this "routine" feeling, because feeling this isn't good and like I said can lead to you becoming bored. It's only natural for the excitement to die down as it isn't a new relationship, and you are more comfortable with one another now. So just think of other things you can do together which can make things interesting for both of you.

You have to try a few things until you find something which can break it. Experiment with doing different activities. Do things out of the blue and just try and be spontaneous in what you do. Any more questions feel free to message me as my inbox is open.

*Emma*

Posted at 4:52 am on June 26, 2008

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