You asked me on the reply what could you do for sleeping and stop thinking about it and stuff in the meanwhile I couldn't reply to you in a message because you are anonymous so I'll just reply here and if you want further advise you'll have to message me as none anonymous or post a topic on the serious forum so I can keep replying without making lot's of replies on the ehelp system (If you do this just sent me the link when you reply to the ehelp)

I'd say just try to do relaxation exercises before going to bed or when you are too stressed, sad, etc.

Things like being outside, doing breathing exercises, running, yoga, inhaling and exhaling, etc; work a lot. They take your mind out of those things that make you feel so overwhelmed (most of the times.)

Things that make you generate endorphins are essential because they make you happy; sport for example!

Also do things you like! What are your hobbies? Perhaps photography or so? Could you take a course? go to a camp related to something you like? - Doing curses and things like that make you happy sometimes and also could help you to meet people.

Before bed, read a book instead of perhaps watching tv or having the computer on (Those things won't let you sleep! Because your mind is too busy finding things to do so at the end it just doesn't stop and it awakes you).

Take a hot bath and drink a tea; that could also work!

Start making planes about what you are going to do to get out and meet people and just take it day by day. Rome wasn't build on a day and friendships won't either but you'll never have them if you don't start.  You'll need to meet people and start networking but just keep your mind open to possibilities and you'll succeed. I'm pretty sure there's lot's of people waiting too meet you if you just give them the chance.

About food, what kind of problems are you having with it? Did you just loose your appetite?  - I'd need more info before trying to comment any further but in the meanwhile I'd just say try to eat healthy, set a schedule and don't miss it. Don't stop meals and perhaps eat pastas and things like that, mix it with things you enjoy.. again if you start exercising that will make you hungry so that could also help you.

Good luck!

Posted at 12:03 am on July 13, 2008

As for when someone comes over to your house, that's fairly easy to fix. Play a game (video game, board game, whatever); take a walk around the neighborhood; play hide & seek-whatever it takes. Maybe explore your house with your friends to see what weird stuff you can find. I remember once my brothers and I did that, and we found an attic and crawlspace that no one knew about before. There are endless possibilities to what you can do besides sitting around. You don't always need a mall or a movie theater to have fun with your friends. :)

If you're unable to do all of this, you could always make plans with friends to do stuff, so then it's scheduled ahead of time, and you'll have stuff to do.

I hope I was of some help. My advice may not really help, depending on your situation. If you wanna talk me, don't hesitate to PM me - my inbox is always open. :)

-Josh

Posted at 10:51 pm on July 11, 2008

Well this is something quite easy if you think logically about it. The answer is simple! You need to get out and meet people and find activities to do with your friends.

You don't like being alone then don't be. Work to improve what you don't like in your life, in this case your loneliness!

Can you do charity work? Go to church? Join a club? Go to a camp? Get a job at the mall? - There's lot's of ways to meet people and it's not that difficult if you are willing to put yourself out there. Go out to places where young people go, be friendly, talkative and talk to people! Don't be insecure just be yourself and surely you'll meet new people in a short time!

Your parents are trying to help you but ultimately they can't find you friends! That's something you have to do on your own!

What are your friends doing?  What do they like to do? Can you go to them to concerts? Meet some of their friends? - Do some Networking and go out and meet people! Friends of friends and things like that! Perhaps you could find out what they are doing and see if you want to try it out too! There's really lot's of options but you need to work for them! It's not something you can do sitting at home.

You are depressed and alone because you want to be with people. Do you like being like that? -I'm sure you don't! Again the answer if quite obvious! Go out, meet people and start making new friendships! Find activities to do and be occupied and just have fun! You are young and have to chance to do lot's of things so don't waste the opportunity!

My inbox is open if you want to talk.

Posted at 8:59 am on July 11, 2008