That is the basis of every relationship, and without it you hardly have anything to work on.  

I'm sure it is a little threatening to see another guy liking your girlfriend, but you have to realize that she is with you for a reason.  If your girlfriend had a thing with this guy she would probably be with him and not you.  Don't get down on her because someone else thinks she is as great as you think she is.  Think of it as a compliment.

With that being said, there does arise some issues with her hanging out with him all the time.  Now, you can't tell her who she can and cannot be friends with, but you can try to put her into your position so she will be a little more caring when she is making decisions.  You should talk to her about how it makes you feel when she is hanging out with someone that is obsessed with her.  Explain to her that it would probably make her feel a bit weird if you were hanging around a girl that had a liking for you.  While you are talking to her about this it is very important that you aren't accusational.  Don't treat her as if she has already cheated on you, and definitely don't treat her like she has a plan to cheat.  Doing that will only push her closer to him and farther from you.  

All in all, just try to keep your head up and realize that if she wanted him she would have him.  She loves you and that accompanied with a little bit of trust is all you need to make this relationship suceed.  Good luck, hun.

Posted at 1:23 pm on July 12, 2008

I know you're likely tempted to tell her that you don't want her around him. That's a totally natural reaction because you're scared of losing her. But is that fair to her? Your girlfriend should have friends and she obviously enjoys being around him.

What matters is that you remember that her feelings for him are different. She wants you, she chose to be with you. Instead of focusing on his feelings here, trust the feelings you have for her and the feelings you know she has for you.

Don't be scared of talking to her either. She likely wants to know what's on your mind. And being in a relationship is about  comforting and supporting each other. She can't do either for you if you don't talk to her.

Remember, you don't have to trust him. You have to trust her.

The best of luck. I definitely hope you two get through this. :)

<3 Audrey

Posted at 9:50 am on July 12, 2008

If you're both in love with each other, as you say, then it makes no difference how this other boy feels about her.  If he made a move, or gave any indication that he felt that way, she would tell him she's happy with you, and that nothing is going to happen.  I'm sure she can deal with it.

You're always going to have situations like this, in school/college and work, where your girlfriend will be around others who might like her.  But she's with you, and I'm sure she's got no plans of changing that.  So, just have a little more self confidence, and trust her to deal with anything that might happen.

Any moves of warning him off or getting involved is going to make you look very insecure, and it might push her away.

Posted at 12:29 am on July 12, 2008