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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 10:55 am on Aug. 12, 2008 Return to Inbox
Subject: i need guy help please
ok. me and my ex boyfriend had been going out for almost months. and I really really like him. last weekend he went off to church camp and went he came back be broke up with me and told me that he met someone els. I was talking to him today, and he said he loved me, and I said what about your girl friend. he said I said I met her not date her. and I was really happy, but over the last couple of days he has made me cry so much and put me into a lot of stress.

and I need help. I don't know if I should take him back or if I should just say you hurt me and I ant. please help me!!! .
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Okay, it just sounds like he met this new girl, is not dating her yet, but wants to.

You two were only dating for a few months, anything can happen over a few months. He may have fallen out of love with you. Relationship are very peculiar. You both probably are very young and inexperienced in relationships.

He may still be in love with you, but confused about this other girl. Give him some time. He will make up his mind eventually. He will either choose you or this other girl.

If he made you cry that much over the past few days, you really should ask yourself if it is really worth it. Maybe you should try to find some other guys. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If he wants to date someone else, then there is nothing you can do about it.

The main thing is that you really need to decide if you love him or not. If he really hurt you that much, then why bother and wait for him? I bet that plenty of guys want to date you, but just haven't asked yet. Is it really worth the trouble of waiting for him? Maybe you should think about that for a while and then make your decision.

Either way, I am sure that things will work out for you and that you will be happy. Relationships may be confusing and frustrating, but it usually works out in the end.

-Chris-

Posted at 10:37 pm on Aug. 16, 2008

Ok, so let me make sure I get this right.  You and this boy were going out for 2 months.  He broke up with you and told you met someone else.  He then came back and said he loved you and he just met her.  Is that right?  This can really go two ways.  The first way is he is only wanting you back because him and that her girl weren't going so good within a few days.  Hes come back to you because your his ex and he knows you'll take him back.  The second way is that he realized he made a mistake.  Maybe he was getting bored with the relationship. This sometimes happen when new and exciting things stop coming. Maybe he just needed a break.  Sometimes breaks are good.  You're both young.  Try to expand the relationship some more.

Is this the only reason why he put so much stress on you?  Or did he do some other things?  I would recommend that you talk with him some more.  Ask why he did this to you.  Ask him why come back.  Ask him why you should take him back.  Only you can make this decision.  I don't think personally a girl should take back a guy if he left her for someone new and then comes back when it doesn't work out.  Thats not love.  Thats not a healthy relationship.  Thats cruel.  And its not something that you should cry so much about.  Crying is not the only solution to these problems.  Don't try to do this alone.  Talk to other friends.  Talk to family.  Just make sure you know the whole situation and his reasons before acting on it.  Take as long as you need.  You deserve that.  If he really loves you, he will wait.

Best wishes,

~jamesish~

Posted at 11:14 am on Aug. 12, 2008

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