I can assure you that you're not the only one. Its a very big world out there and you'll be surprised how many teens think just like you. We can't make someone like us in a dating way. We cant control their feelings. Everyone used to think of me as just a good friend. And I just adapted to it. I stood my ground and waited for that special someone to come along. And she did. My patience payed off. Its good that there's something that is keeping you going. Try to find what this is and keep a hold on it. Never let it go. Its good that you're trying to boost your self confidence. I think you're focusing more on the health aspect of it and that is perfectly fine. But there is a line. Its ok to let loose sometimes. You'll continue to drive yourself crazy if you keep trying to live a boring life while trying to be more happy. You said you made a sacrifice of having no friends. I'm hoping I read this right. If you're saying you don't make friends to help yourself, you're doing the opposite. Open up to people. Meet new people. You'll higher your chances of meeting that special someone. You're confused about whether or not to wait for that special someone to kiss you and be your man. In a way, you have to wait. But you can also look more. You can try things you haven't tried before. Try new cliques at school when you go back. Try more friends that live in your neighborhood. You're 14 and you're not pathetic. Don't confuse that, please. You have your reasons to do what you're doing. You just want more attention. Want more love. Its normal for a girl your age. If you try these new things, then your school year wont be boring. You might even meet your special someone.
Its normal to make excuses like that. It keeps you from feeling so sad. Use these excuses while you try to be more open to people. Think of a boy you've never talked to before. Maybe one you would of never thought to talk to. It might turn out to be something special. Everything has its time and place, but we can't always sit around. You're doing good by getting healthier and maintaining it. But the confidence is an issue, as you realized.
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Don't stop trying. You'll be happy soon.
1) Think back to when you did something new for the first time.
Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!
2) Do something you have been putting off.
Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through!
3) Do something you are good at.
Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing... If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem!
And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier.
4) Stop thinking about yourself!
I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on the self. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.
5) Get seriously relaxed.
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai Chi can be incredibly useful.
When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!
6) Remember all the things you have achieved.
This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here.
Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous), passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.
7) Remember that you could be wrong!
If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!
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