LiveWire Network Peer Answers Peer Support Teen Forums Tech Forums College Forums 650 users online 184767 members 1821 active today Advertise Here Sign In
TeenCollegeTechPhotos | Quizzes | LiveSecret | Video | Dictionary | News | FAQ
You have 1 new message.
Emergency Help
Until you sign up you can't do much. Yes, it's free.

Sign Up Now
Membername:
Password:
Already have an account?
Invite Friends
Active Members
Groups
Contests
Moderators
5 online / 39 MPM
Fresh Topics
  LiveWire / My Forums / Resources / Emergency Help Center / Viewing Message

Viewing Message
From: (Not Displayed) Received: 10:57 pm on Aug. 12, 2008 Return to Inbox
Subject: I'm having trouble, involving sex.
Okay. So I've been active since december and all my friends told me it isn't really suppose to feel 'good' until the first couple of times. But I don't know.. when me and my boyfriend have sex I don't feel anything special... to be honest i've never even had and orgasm when he was penetrating me...

is there something wrong with my body?

Add Reply Return to Inbox

Replies
The situation and pleasure vary from girl to girl.  Some girls actually have good experiences their first time.  The majority feels a little discomfort.  There is no set number of times to have sex before you enjoy it.  You're not abnormal because you're not getting the orgasm.  If one case, it could be your man.  Maybe he's doing things a little different than what you would like.  To fix this, you and him could try new and exciting things.  Some things could be more touching, biting, licking, etc.  Its all about being adventurous and making things interesting.

Here is a list of things to heighten your orgasm.  The descriptions can be found here.

1) Anticipate the Sexual Encounter
2) Get Relaxed
3) Eliminate Distractions
4) Eliminate Anger
5) Get Comfortable with Your Body and Its Imperfections
6) Get Into an Erotic Focus During Sex
7) Concentrate
8) Get Out of The "Real Way" Trap
9) Make Time For Play

PHYSICAL HINTS:

1) Become an Expert On Your Own Body
2) Communicate Openly
3) Be Sure Your Partner is "On the Mark"
4) Exaggerate Sexual Tension
5) Squeeze those Muscles
6) Hang Your Head
7) Breathe Differently
8) Be a Tease
9) Practice Letting Go
10) Be superior
11) Use Toys If You Like


Best wishes,

~jamesish~


Posted at 5:30 am on Aug. 13, 2008

Firstly, no, there is nothing wrong with your body.

Many women can't orgasm from penetration alone, most of the population I heard anyway. To make intercourse feel better, suggest with your boyfriend to spend more time doing foreplay. This should heighten sexual pleasure. Also, before sex I find it's better if you take things slowly, don't just undress and do the dirty. Spend time softly kissing and touching with clothes on.

As I said, many women can't orgasm from just intercourse so either you or your boyfriend could play with your clitoris during penetration. From personal experience, if we do this my orgasm is a lot more intense and lasts longer.

I hope this helps, good luck

- rosa

Posted at 2:14 am on Aug. 13, 2008

Add Reply