What am I saying?

I'm saying that these aren't necessarily qualities that you need.  You just want them.  But you don't have to have them to be happy.  And you sure don't need them to find a guy.  Access your situation.  Are you doing everything?  Trying out new cliques?  Talking to guys you've never talked to before?  

I think its actually normal to be sad and then really happy a while later.  They're just moods.  Now, if they become anger and such, then there's a problem.  And I suggest you find someone near you like a family member to talk to.

You said your mum tells you to do your homework, but you want someone to tell you what to do in a situation.  Why can't your mum have this role too?  Everyone doesn't have that person to talk to, but you will find that person.  Try talking to a person about something.  A friend at school.  And see if they listen well. If no, try another.

Sorry to hear that your friendship is falling apart.  But I think its because of these issues you're having.  Its effecting you in a way that is hindering your friendships.  This is a sign of problems that need to be fixed.  And my suggestion for this is to either open up more to your mum, or check your friends at school and see which ones listen.  You said you have three main friends, but try to have more than three main friend.  Don't limit yourself.

I don't think its fair to both sides to compare yourself to children in Africa.  The circumstances are soooooo different. You don't have to do that to yourself.  That might make things worse.

Also, you said you just want to be told what to do.  Try to settle situations on your own too.  We become robotic and so predictable when we rely on others so much.  You could use this advice to help you start thinking on your own, and soon, you'll be handling situations more effectively.  Its always good to talk to someone though.  Try to balance that out.

Best wishes,

~jamesish~

Posted at 4:58 am on Aug. 13, 2008