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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 7:03 am on Aug. 14, 2008 Return to Inbox
Subject: Army troubles
So today was my last day of camp with the Army Reserve and I fucked up bad. REAL BAD. I worked hard all camp.

What happened was we got into the HQ barracks having travelled from a different barracks. I thought we’d be going home straight away so I called my dad and told him to pick me up at a certain time. Other people who had their own cars had driven home from the other barracks without coming to the HQ barracks; in fact 1 girl went home last night.

It just seemed so obvious that we’d be going home straight away, everyone was saying only 2.5 hours till were home. We were told that we’d have to pay for lunch if we wanted it once we got there. I thought that because we were paying surely we’d be finished as soon as we got there, because we were due to arrive at lunch time.

We got into the HQ and I saw my dad outside waiting for me, having driven an hour from where we live to get there. Suddenly our corporal is telling us to go for lunch and well unload the ammunition from the vehicles afterwards and then go.

There were more than enough people to unload the ammunition.

It would take them about an hour to eat their lunch and be ready and then probably half an hour to unload everything. I'm thinking about my dad, and I go up to the corporal and tell him my dad is waiting for me and can I go. No one else’s parents are waiting, cos pretty much everyone else is from the city. The corporal tells me no, get your lunch and we’ll unload the crates. I tell him how long my dad travelled and that he has work later. The Corporal asks me why I called him; nobody said we’d be finished right away.

The Corporal tells me someone can drop me in a nearby town, but I think about how pissed my dad would be if he drove all the way there for nothing.

Anyways the corporal tells me just go, if you're gonna be like that we don't want you here, we don't want people like you. I get my bags and go.

The Corporal said all that in front of a senior NCO and some senior privates. It looks awful bad for me. Why the fuck did I call my dad? let the team down, and I never really got along well with the group on this camp, and they're all probably telling the story and bitching and shit.

I mentioned the situation and what the corporal said to me to another corporal on my way out, and he told me not to worry, but I can’t help it, cos I fucked up and fucked off in front of everyone.

It looks real bad for me and makes it look like I don't care…This is literally one of the worst things I've ever done….and what must everyone be thinking?p> Console me please... .

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You shouldn't be so hard on yourself and it seems to me that it wasn't your fault, just merely a breakdown in communication. First, having your dad drive an hour to pick you up isn't all that far - at least it wasn't a multiple hour drive. Based on what you said, it seems like everyone who was still there would've been free to go once lunch was had and the truck was unloaded, so let's consider that two hours or so. If your dad had to wait that long he is old enough to find something to do during that time. He could've taken a nap, stretched his legs or walked around the base. That way he would've gotten a break from driving and being in the car.

In my opinion, it sounds like it is the Corporal who is at fault as he didn't make the instructions clear enough, or he was part of the communication breakdown. Unfortunately these kinds of things happen and in this case you shouldn't let it get to you. If this Corporal does talk about this incident with others then he should be reprimanded, as this should be a private matter between you and him. If he decided to take it up with a superior officer then that is one thing, just like you talked about it with another corporal. I don't think you let anyone down, whether it be yourself, the team or your dad.

Posted at 11:37 am on Aug. 15, 2008

I think it was more than just because it was in front of your Senior NCO and senior privates.  I think it was your immense love for the Army and someone questioning that.  Because thats really what he did.  I think you had valid reasons but I think you know that the Army doesn't play around too much.  As I was reading along, I kinda knew what was going to happen.  This corporal that told you this was probably just thinking that you're putting yourself in front of the Army and we both know that doesn't fly too well.  We cant put ourselves before the men around us.  I would imagine hes the strict type.  Maybe not severely, but enough.  I don't think you let your fellow men down that much though.  Only the corporal said something right?  And maybe the other men are saying stuff now.  Soon things will be made right.  What can you do about it....?

I would recommend you getting in touch with this senior NCO first.  Explain to him that you made a mistake and it wont happen again.  I don't want you to think of this as a bad mistake, but just something to learn from.  If you find some way of doing this then he can talk to a few people lower than him and they wont hold it against you.  Then I would talk to this Corporal.  Tell him the same thing.  I think maybe you could suck up your pride just a little bit and do this.  It will prove to him that you're a man and your love for your country.  Joining the Army Reserve isn't enough in some people's minds.  Sometimes it takes more action.  And if the other men see the higher-ups are respecting you, then they will to.

Good luck,

~jamesish~

Posted at 10:26 am on Aug. 14, 2008

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