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Male Sex-Related Questions

1. How do I perform oral sex on a girl?  
2. How do I measure my penis?  
3. What is the average size of the male penis?  
4. Does penis size matter?  
5. What are some techniques for male masturbation?  
6. What are blue balls?  
7. How do I pleasure a girl?  
8. Where is the male G-spot and how do I get to it?  
9. How can I last longer in bed?  

Female Sex-Related Questions

1. What are the common signs of early pregnancy?  
2. I just found out I'm pregnant; where can I find support?  
3. Am I still a virgin if...  
4. How do I give a guy oral sex?  
5. How do I know if she had an orgasm?  
6. What are some techniques for female masturbation?  
7. Can I get pregnant if he fingers me?  
8. Can I get pregnant from precum?  
9. Can I get pregnant from swallowing sperm?  
10. What are common breast sizes among girls?  
11. What is TSS?  
12. Should I use tampons or pads and what else do I need to know about periods?  
13. Am I pregnant?  
14. How can I find out if I am pregnant by taking a home pregnancy test?  
15. What should I know about birth control?  
16. What should I know about my trip to the Gynecologist?  
17. How do I give a guy a handjob?    

General Sex-Related Questions (For Both Sexes)
1. How old were you when you lost your virginity?  
2. Should I shave my pubic hair?  
3. What happens if I masturbate too much?  
4. My partner wants to have sex, but I don't know if I'm ready!  
5. We want to have sex; should we use two condoms?  
6. What is Age of Consent?  
7. What are the four bases, when it comes to sex?  
8. What are some popular hair removal techniques?  
9. How do I properly use a condom?  
10. Am I ready for sex?  
11. What does GLBT stand for?  
12. How do we do anal sex?  
13. How are sexual identities defined?  
14. Am I pregnant/Is my girlfriend pregnant?  
15. Can my girlfriend get pregnant from...?  
16. What are some STDs and the common symptoms?  
17. What are some masturbation/sex techniques?  
18. What STDs am I at risk for and what are their symptoms?  
19. What different forms of birth control exist?  
20. What is sexual orientation?  
21. What are some key signs of pregnancy?  
22.Are You Having Trouble Working Out Your Sexuality?

Originally compiled and maintained by penguincube and wmudude. Edited by circa and Annastasia.

Post edited at 2:15 pm on April 15, 2008 by BBallAsh23

A: This is for anyone who is thinking about going down on a girl for the first time, or has done so in the past and would like to improve their technique. First of all, you have to know what you're doing down there. I'm talking navigation. There is NO way you are going to satisfy a girl without knowing the basics about her anatomy. You, as a guy, have this whole big giant penis, which is pretty rudimentary - basic - not hard to figure out. Girls have flaps and holes and hair and it is completely understandable if you look at it and get a little confused!

Each girl looks very different in her pubic region. It's doubtful you'll ever see two that are quite the same. Some girls are very hairy and some have hardly any hair at all. Some girls shave, some don't. (Please don't ever ask a girl to shave. If she's willing to do it on her own, fine.) The inner lips, the labia minora, can look very different on different girls. On some they are very small, and on some they are of medium size, and on some they are large and protrude past the outer lips (labia). Basically, you are best to learn the relation of where the clitoris is in relation to the vaginal opening and the inner lips, this will be your best navigational tool.

Ok, so now that you know where you're going, it's important to learn what to do to get there. First of all, don't just dive straight into it. If she is like me, and in my "research" (i.e. College) most girls are, she will desire a considerable amount of foreplay. Not only is this necessary to turn her on, it is to your advantage. You don't want to be down there so long your tongue starts cramping up or something. Seriously spend about 10-15 minutes kissing her, her neck, her breasts, her shoulders, etc. Be tender, don't hump her leg or anything, and don't insist that she pay any attention to you and your throbbing member. Remember, you are doing this for her, right? Give her this undivided attention. She will make it up to you!

If you really want to drive her crazy with lust, during this foreplay, don't touch her clitoris or vagina. Think about when you're horny, how much you want your penis touched, how much you yearn for it to be touched when it's hard, and how good it feels when you finally touch it. This basic premise also applies to a woman. During foreplay, don't touch it. It's as simple as that. One thing my fiancé does that drives me insane while we're in foreplay is to take two fingers, and run them from back to front, each finger in one of the creases between my inner thigh and outer lips, not quite near my vagina, but in a sensitive area. It makes me quiver with yearning, seriously. Give it a go.

OK, so now, she's wet, writhing, horny, and begging for you to touch it. Slowly, work your way down. When you get there, again, don't go for the trophy right away. Lay some soft kisses on that same crease between thigh and outer lips I mentioned above. Nuzzle your nose into her pubic hair, and breathe through your mouth onto her genitals (this feels divine). If she is grinding her hips a little, you know you are definitely on the right track. Now, finally, lay your tongue onto her clitoris. Start with little licks with the tip of your tongue. Find a rhythm, but don't stick with the same thing too long. One good thing I've heard to do is to "write" the letters of the alphabet with your tongue on her clitoris. Eventually you will want to get into a bit more of a rhythm and increase your pace. Reach up and play with her breasts, run your hands down her leg, even insert a finger into her vagina. And, speaking of vagina, don't be afraid to "tongue-fuck" her. Basically, take your tongue, and stick it in her vagina as far as you can get it, and move it in and out a few times. This feels sublime for the girl, like nothing else you could imagine. But don't forget, it's that clitoris that will give her the orgasm, so get back there! Basically remember - not too hard, not too soft, and ask for her input! Tell her that if she can tell you what to do, it will make it easier for you to please her, and it will turn you on too (even if that's not entirely true...).

Answer provided by several LiveWire members.

A: The average reply to this question is 14-16 years of age.  

Note: This statistic is nothing more than the average of LW members who voted in this poll.  There is no set limit on what age you "should" lose your virginity.  Some of the people surveyed also said they regretted losing it so young, so it is more important to lose your virginity when you're mentally and physically ready, as well as having found the right person, whatever age that may be; younger than you or older than you.

(Edited by DarkLink224 at 12:59 pm on May 14, 2006)

A: One member states: "Trim it if its long and in the way, but dont shave; ingrown hairs will be a bitch if you shave. As a personal preference, it just seems gross......I prefer hair; little kids have no hair down there, older people do.....thats how it is and should be."

Another member shares: " I shave mine and my girlfriend likes it that way. Now that I got used to shaving it, I do it about once a month and I feel much cleaner down there after shaving it. But I gotta tell ya, it takes a little bit of time to get used to because it will itch like heck the first several times...but after you get used to it, you'll like it and wouldn't be able to stand the hair like it's right now, so it prob will become a lifestyle."  

To prevent ingrown hair, buy one of those scrubbies and scrub against the direction of hair growth to open up the follicals. Do not shave against the hair growth, if you do, you'll definitely get ingrown hair because it'll shave the hair so close that it gets trapped under the skin and keep growing under the skin.  Dont shave that close, just shave with the hair direction and it wont be as itchy.

Answers provided by bravesfan and SnowMonkey.

A:JennyColada and wmudude are the experts on this:

-Tongue is good. Kind of like how fingers work with a hand job. A guy's dick has a WHOLE LOT of sensors on it (especially on the head). The more sensors that you activate the better it feels. It you move your tongue around a lot then it touches a whole lot of different places really quickly.  
  -Touch places that don't normally get touched. You also might want to concentrate on certain places of the dick. Here are a few that you might want to try: The ridge (you know how the tip kind of looks like a mushroom: the underside of the top of the mushroom is what I mean by "the ridge", the base (the spot closest to where the dick connects to the guys pelvis), the very tip of the head (especially near the opening). When you touch any place on someone's body that normally doesn't get touched the nerves go crazy.  
  -Be sure to keep it lubricated. To any dick...dryness is the devil. Since it has more sensors and nerves than most places on our body, the dick is very sensitive. This is good because the slightest touch can feel amazing, but also if something is rough (i.e. because of a lack of lubrication) it can feel uncomfortable. So...spit is your friend. Don't worry about it getting too lubricated.  
  -Suck a little. You don't want to try to rip it off, but if you suck it applies a little bit of pressure that can feel really good.  
  -Don't think that you have to fit the whole thing in your mouth all of the time. You want to alternate where you put the sensation. Kind of like when you rub one place on your arm for a really long time. It gets kind of boring after a while...right? Well, sometimes you want to move from your upper arm to your lower arm, and that can feel really great. It's the same concept. Sometimes it's good to "go deep" but other times it's great to stay at the head.  
  -Pay attention to body language. If the guy thrusts, then that's a good sign. It means that he likes it. By paying attention to his "pleasure movements" you will eventually figure out exactly what it is he enjoys.  
  -You might want to try playing, licking, or sucking (gently) on his balls as well. The outside of his testicles are a network of many nerves that can easily be stimulated by a light touch, brush, or blow.  
 -Right underneath his balls, where his sac meets his thigh, there is a muscle called the PC muscle. If you push or rub on this when he's close to ejaculating, you can slow the process down and even stop it if you don't want him to ejaculate just yet. This also has multiple nerve endings in it that are stimulated when touched.

Here is more advice from JennyColada and wmudude on giving good head.

From JennyColada

You should decide whether or not you want to swallow (or “spit”). It's totally not required, and any guy should be happy just to get the attention he's getting. But if you'd feel open to trying it, it's a huge turn on for most guys. I think that’s because it's something that can be seen as a little 'dirty', which plays with their heads. Guys sometimes see their girlfriends as innocent little angels, and it just kind of teases their imagination to have you do something like that.  

Here is a guide for time. Some girls aren’t sure what to do in what order. So here is a good guideline. You don't HAVE to do this...you can do whatever you feel comfortable with. I'm sure that he'll LOVE it. But this is a good guideline to go by. What I would recommend is to unbutton his pants and pull them down a little, like down to his knees. Then tease him a little. Like touch "him" with your hands, very lightly. So that it's almost a tickle. While you're tickling start to blow on his penis lightly, this is when you should pull down his boxers. Then, when he's "exposed", lightly run your fingers up his thighs and over his balls and lightly touch his penis. Then, when he reeeeally wants it start to kiss the head of his penis. Then tease him a little with your lips and tongue. Just lightly running your tongue up and down his penis. This is where I would recommend starting the extreme ickyness action.    

If you haven't noticed...there is a lot of teasing going on here.  
If your boy takes a long time to ejaculate, or doesn’t ejaculate at all, it’s ok. I don't think that you're doing anything "wrong". Some guys just take longer than others. Also, he might have been tired or not really horny. Also, I know that when my boyfriend has to pee or something he doesn't quite feel relaxed...so it will take him a lot longer to cum. If you get “complaints” that you’re biting or using your teeth too much, maybe you were relaxing your mouth too much (closing your mouth or something) and your teeth were kind of scraping against him? You should just pay more attention about what your teeth are doing.  

Also, the question about how experienced your boyfriend is comes into the ejaculation question. Maybe that is why he took a while to cum. Has he had sex before? The farther someone goes (sexually) the less good stuff feels "below" their sexual status. Like...my boyfriend doesn't really think hand-jobs feel that good anymore because he's felt better stuff.  

And most importantly...  
 -Be comfortable with yourself. It's your uncomfortable or embarrassed, he'll know, and it won't feel all good for either of you (if I give a good bj it's a big turn on to me). Just remember that since it's you, (and as long as you don't bite it off) no matter what you do will be wonderful! It should never feel like a "job," you should both have fun and enjoy yourselves!  

From wmudude:

While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are most pleasurable.  

As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure concentrate on them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring (or corona) of the head and the foreskin are attached. Or were attached prior to his circumcision. By continued licking and tapping along this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.  

As he is getting ready for climax you will note changes in his penis. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes so that you can prepare for his ejaculate properly. The head of the cock may swell somewhat larger then it is during the normal course of his erection. He may thrust his hips forward as he wants to send his body hurtling out his cock with his cum. And for most men, immediately prior to the cum, there will appear at the tiny, lovely lips at the tip of the cock a clear drop or two of fluid. When you see this or feel the opening at the meateus through his condom (if he's wearing one) you know that the moment of truth is at hand.  

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circle motion. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion. Watch your teeth on this one. A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock. The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise motions in a slow purposeful manner.  

One of the first things you encountered when you first started to suck cock was a gag reflex. Consider for a moment that the average length of your oral cavity is three to three and a half inches while the average cock length is five to five and a half inches. The laws of nature would seem to dictate that getting all that cock into your mouth is an impossibility. The biggest obstacle to taking all of his cock down your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing to do is get the cock past that angle. In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best position to accomplish this is to lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back. This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips.

Answers provided by JennyColada and wmudude

(Edited by DarkLink224 at 7:46 pm on April 4, 2006)

A: In short, no. There are many concerns when it comes to masturbating, such as physical damage, causing the growth of hair on the palm of your hand, etc., and these are basically all myths.

A: Never do anything that you don't want to, or are not ready to, otherwise you will end up regretting it later. Only do what you are comfortable with, and make sure your partner knows how you feel about the situation and make sure you know how they feel. Communication is the key to a successful sexual relationship.

A:  One member states: Your question is a good one. Many people believe that an orgasm is always like something you see in porno movies, or the scene from the movie When Harry Met Sally. Many ordinary women have orgasms with shouting, gasping, racing pulse, strong muscular contractions and vaginal spasms, but many do not. Some are subtle, less obvious orgasms that may not be recognized. The woman may only experience a warm feeling and a flushed appearance, or light-headedness. Basically an orgasm represents a build up of tension in the body, and a release of that tension. Even women who have the more obvious types often have the less obvious, based on their emotional state, fatigue, etc. There is no good or bad orgasm. Many women who believe that they do not have orgasms, just may not recognize that they have. Orgasm should not be a goal to be reached. Too often sex can be frustrating because one or both of the partners is focused on an orgasm, as opposed to enjoying the experience itself. The less you worry about an orgasm, the more likely you are to reach one.

Another member says: You'll feel a build up in tension until it gets to an extreme point and all of a sudden it lets go. that's when you get your orgasm. You'll most likely feel slightly breathless afterwards and your muscles will relax and go slack after all the contracting that led up to the orgasm. this is so the wrong word but it'll feel kind of a like an 'explosion' down there. You will know when you have one.

Answers provided by JoPel and blinkbabe

A: One member offers this advice:

Electric Toohtbrush: Ok there are several things you can do with this. You can plug it in and just use the end of it the handle part not the toothbrush (obviously) and it works as a vibrator or if you want it can be a vibrating dildo. Another thing you can do is plug in the toothbrush turn it on and stick it between two pillows. It will vibrate and you stradle the top pillow and rock back and forth it will work good as well.

Hot Tub: For this you basically position yourself so that the jet is like maybe 6 inches away from you so you dont get the full blast just the effect from a little of a distance. You can get a similar effect from in a bathub filling up a squirt bottle with water and squeezing it at yourself under the water. Imagine that but alot better. But remember most importantly do not just sit on the jets or something position yourself away from them a little.

Improvised Dildos: Here is where you can be creative. You can use just about anything you can think of to improvise. Small conditioner bottles, flashlights, even vegitables like cucumbers and stuff. I must stress this though, make sure it's clean!! If possible clean whatever it is off and then put a condom on it. But you can be creative with this and there are a million things out there you can use.

Pillows: I stated the best pillow one above where you use something that vibrates (ex: electric toothbrush) and put it between a few pillows and basically you rock back and forth on the pillow while straddling it. You can do this without something vibrating underneath them but the effect is better if there is.

Washing machine: This one is pretty obvious. Basically you sit on top of the washnig machine as it goes into spin cycle. If its anything like my washing machine it will shake and vibrate alot. It's pretty simple you just sit on top of it and off it goes. Not the best method but it works from what i have heard.

I hope this info has helped you out. Maybe it will open up some new creative and wonderful things to some of you. Have fun!  

Another member adds:

One thing to add to the mastubating one that I've done once or twice (masturbating's not really my thing, but this works) is the shower head... basically point it whereever and go.

Answers provied by EmptySoul and joojy

A: Yes. Sperm can swim, and they know where they're going.  However, it wouldn't have as much force as if it were ejaculated into your vagina, and sperm dies outside the body within a short period of time. The sperm on his finger could be dead, but it is possible to get pregnant in this matter.  It is reccomended that you use contraceptives in all sexual activities.

Post edited at 10:36 am on Jan. 24, 2007 by TiMmMeE

The LiveWire Resources Page has websites and phonelines for Teen Pregnancy and Rape help.  LiveWire Teen Forums are always here to help you and answer questions as well.

Four of these resources are listed at the top of this FAQ.

A: Absolutely not!  This may seem safer, but if you use two condoms while having sex, the two comdoms will rub against one another and this actually makes it more likely to break!

A: Finding your penis length

Penis length is defined as the linear distance along the dorsal side of the erect penis extending from the mons veneris to the tip of the glans. In terms you and I would understand, this means the penis length is measured in a straight line on the top side of the erect penis, from the skin of your belly to the tip of your penis. Penis circumference is defined as the linear distance around the widest, thickest, part of the erect penis (see below).

1. Stimulate yourself using your method of choice until your cock is hard as a rock.
2. Place your ruler on the skin of your belly, at the base of your erect penis. Do not press in against your belly, why cheat yourself?
3. Press the ruler against your penis and read the nearest quarter-inch measurement at the tip of your penis.
4. Record this number, and keep this paper in a safe place.
5. Repeat this measurement two more times, and record the results along with your first measurement, preferably with different erections and preferably on different days. Why? Because your erections can vary slightly depending on your level or arousal, time of day, room temperature, and even ho long since your last sexual experience.

Finding your penis circumference

Penis length is not the only factor in determining penis size. The width, girth, or fatness, of a penis is also an important aspect when considering how you compare. Most people have a penis that is either longer and thinner, or shorter and fatter. Use the instructions below to determine your penile circumference (distance around the widest part of your penis).

1. Stimulate yourself using your method of choice until your cock is hard as a rock.
2. Place a fabric ruler or a string end at the widest part of your penis and wrap it carefully around one time. Mark the spot where the string first touches itself.
3. If using string, take the marked string and lay it against the ruler. Read to the nearest quarter-inch measurement.
4. Record this number on your paper.
5. Repeat this measurement two more times, preferably with different erections and preferably on different days, recording the measurements each time.

Calculate your size

Average the 3 numbers you recorded for your penis length. If you don't know how to take an average, just add up the 3 numbers, and divide the total by 3. This is your average penis length.

Then, do the same for your penis circumference. Now you know just how big you are!

Wondering just how you compare with others? The average erect penis length is about 6 inches, but this can vary depending on what data or medical studies you are consulting.

Courtesy of sex-project.com

A: While many people have different views on how you can lose your virginity, the general consensus it that  you are still a virgin unless your vagina has been penetrated by a penis.

A: If you're unusually tuned into your body, you might begin to suspect that you're pregnant within the first few days of pregnancy. But, most women don't suspect they are pregnant until they miss a period, and a few don't suspect or believe they are pregnant for months after conception.

Here are 5 common signs of early pregnancy. You may experience all, some or none of these symptoms.

A Missed Period. Missing your period is the most clear-cut sign of pregnancy. But it is not definitive, as stress or other factors may cause irregular periods.

Frequent Trips to the Bathroom. Even before missing a period, most pregnant women report having to go to the bathroom more often. You may even have to get up during the night! This occurs after the embryo has implanted in the uterus and begins producing the pregnancy hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). This hormone triggers frequent urination.

Fatigue. Utter exhaustion is a very early sign of pregnancy. Fatigue is a result of high levels of the hormone progesterone.

Morning (and Noon and Night!) Sickness. Guess what? That queasy feeling isn't limited to mornings. Most pregnant women who experience morning sickness feel slightly nauseated at other times during the day as well. About half have vomiting, but very few have severe enough morning sickness to develop dehydration and malnutrition.

Sore (and Enlarged) Breasts. If you're pregnant, your breasts will probably become increasingly tender to the touch, similar to the way they feel before your period, only more so. Once your body grows accustomed to the increase in hormones, the pain will subside.

If you have any of the above symptoms, consider taking a pregnancy test as soon as possible.

Courtesy of WebMD