I appreciate you coming back and explaining this. Hopefully through sharing the topic it will open some people's eyes.

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However i do think that some people genuinely give advice and try to make the place better, and it's a shame that they aren't recognised more. I know that this is probably a biased view however i know the support some people give and it's excellent, however from personal experience it can get too much. I've been personally drained of all my supportiveness before because of some of the eHelps I've read, yet i still try.  To be fair it can also be difficult to answer those flashy little eHelps when things are going on in my own life, and i bet it's the same for other support leaders.

It's not right for you to be refused support however sometimes people just don't know how to deal with some of the things that you need help with. We aren't professional we are people who try our best to give advice on things we understand and can give advice on however we have to remember some people need professional help.

I agree sometimes it seems about the reputation, however when i first because support leader i was a little member had only been on the site 3 months, and was still below blue bar, wanted to genuinely help people, and i feel i personally feel i deserved it. I've tried to understand and help. I know some people are only support leaders because of who they are and that does need to change, however like I've said it's not something we can do.

About you being belittled by a member that is wrong and should have been dealt with, I'm sorry that you felt you had to leave your account because of it. Nobody deserves that.

Post edited at 9:35 am on May 18, 2008 by emma19911

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I agree with you on the support leader promotions. At times, the most absurd people are permitted to keep their status as support leader, despite their current standing on the site. I believe that demotions need to be far more prolific in the cases of those who positively go against the ethos of the role. Unfortunately, those of us who are merely support leaders or of lower 'ranking', have no power to do anything about this, and thus are forced to wait until they are promoted to seek to create such change. Unfortunately, many members don't stick around until promotion, and as a result these things aren't addressed from an equal standing with other moderators. In the meantime, all we can do is report serious violations by our colleagues.

Since its creation, this site has evolved and developed beyond its original remit. The need for support is just as pressing as the need for somewhere to escape, and even to an extent, cultural interchange. I need- that's right, need- LiveWire for more than just its supportive side. I need to be able to laugh and joke with people, meet and converse with them. That need is no less than my one for support, and that need is fulfilled. It is important that you see that without its less supportive forums, LiveWire would be nowhere near as large as it is now. Because some people do have easy lives, but they also understand and can help those who don't, and without another side to LiveWire, they wont come, because they don't need to.  You could argue that people don't need to post in what they don't understand, and I agree. I think certain aspects need to be more heavily moderated, but again, those things aren't going to come about unless we stick with it and wait to make those changes ourselves.

In relation to the moderation, I would like to see another role taken on. Instead of just support leaders having the power to hide posts and move topics, I'd like to see a basic member role with the power to do this. Not everyone who's supportive can moderate, and not everyone who can moderate is supportive, so that may need addressing.

In regards to you. Bullying, especially based on something as helpless as a disability is in my opinion disgusting. For someone to put you through something that has left you with no option but to leave this site, that should have been addressed seriously, and repercussions should have followed. It seems they haven't, and for that I am truly sorry. I really believe you should make it clear to David the reasons, naming names, why you left this site. Because whether on the whole this site is supportive or not, you should never have been subjected to that, no matter what the persons role or responsibilities. And as for change? I'll do my best. I promise.

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