I see a guy.  This guy is cute.

How on earth do I approach him?  I have no idea what to say in these situations.  I always just automatically think that I'm not his type and that he wouldn't be into me.

Post edited at 10:20 am on June 15, 2008 by iBritt

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But really, take clues from your surroundings. What is he doing? What is he wearing? What is he holding? Then take about 15 million deep breaths and go over and compliment him. "Hey, I really love your shirt/shoes/watch/necklace, where did you get it" "I couldn't help but notice your book and it looks really interesting, do you mind me asking what it's about?" Then introduce yourself and try to ask general questions based on what clues you can pick up on from little things like his clothes and all.

He is no better than your guy friends so try to see him as a friend instead of putting him on a pedestal. Putting someone on a pedestal always makes you see that person as more important(0bviously) and makes it harder to approach anyone at all. See him as being on your level and approach him on a friend level so you can see if you even like him. Then go from there.

Basically, pick up on visual clues and then go with it and be confident.

Good luck!

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I think that the best thing a person can do when it comes to flirting is just be themselves. Don't think that you are going into it to flirt because you like this person; go as if that person was a new friend and be yourself. You know? Laugh, smile, joke.. Be nice and once in a while say something like: Hahha, I love it; little things like that are a good way of showing interest without being obvious. That away even if the other person isn't exactly interested atleast you made a frienship.

I prefer to make friends before going into the dating aspect, you know? I rather be a friend and then maybe a partner. [WHEN IT COMES TO DATING.. normal flings are other things.. but I'm not the kiss one day forget the other, kinda girl].

When we overanalyze something too much things start to get too complicated. Idealizations or realizations can scare the shit out of us to the point of making us self conciuos and taking the "mood" away.   JUST GO FOR IT. Who cares if it didn't work? once you are out there atleast you took the chance and won't have the "what if" in mind all day.

GOOD LUCK. :}

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