I can imagine it can be painful, but honestly, I think you continue sleeping with him in hopes that he may one day return the feelings... but do you really want to live your life that way?

Some people are alright with sex for the sake of sex... while others are uncomfortable when there are no emotions behind the action. You may not want to let this boy go, but if you continue sleeping with him, then you're only making it harder on yourself. By doing this, you're keeping yourself from moving forward, with some the hope that maybe one day, he'll turn his affections towards you.

Who knows, maybe he will, but he can come to you in his own time. Is it worth how you feel right now? Is it worth this pain...? You said that you counsel your friends against this... do you remember ~why~ you tell them not to? Remind youself of those reasons and see if you can find the will to try and move forward.  It's always harder when you factor emotions into the picture, but we sometimes need to try our best to work around that and follow what we know is better for us in the long run.

Rejection is never fun for anyone, and it's never easy to deal with... but if we keep living in the past, we'll never find the ability to get over it, right? You realize that you're not helping youself, and you realize that things are getting worse and more hurtful... but can you really continue living like this? You may be missing opportunities to meet with someone that you can share a relationship with, someone that will love you as much as you love them :).

Because... people we love come and go in our lives... that's something that many of us experience... and sometimes, we just need to move forward. Why settle for only a few happy moments surrounded by days of sadness... when you can seek something that gives you the reciprocated feelings you deserve... right?

Good luck, alright? I hope that you can resolve your feelings and decide what works best for you :).

Post edited at 1:02 am on April 19, 2008 by Just Waiting Here