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Replies: 1Last Post July 19 2:43pm by Annastasia
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so yeah, i had my basic training with the Reserve army and ended up getting promoted to Private 2 Star at the end of it, like most people did.

I didnt know a soul at the camp, so i had no one to begin with. By the end of the first day i knew everyone in my billet and i got along well with them, and could already get involved in conversations by the end of that first day. At the end of the 2 weeks i knew everyone, not only in the 2 recruit platoons but in the other ranks too. I was well liked and popular.

I wasnt given out to much by the Corporals over the 2 weeks, but a lot of the marching and foot drill didnt come easy to me, and i remember there were some days when i felt like one of the weaker members of my platoon. In fact it felt so bad at one stage that i mentioned it to my platoon officer, because he writes a training diary about everyone in his platoon.

He told me that Im doing fine, but i have some problems with the foot drill no doubt, but my problems is confidence he told me, he said i look round to see what other people are doing. That i should just plough on with what i think i should do when a command is called out rather than seeing what other people do.

So yeah, id like to resolve that problem...

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Hmm, confidence is always a tricky issue, especially for me. I'm not in the same situation as you, but I often find myself checking out other people's actions first too.

Since you know that he wants you to just plow ahead, rather than glancing around, I would try to make a conscious effort to do just that. It's hard to stop some of these behaviors cold turkey, since they can be ingrained in us, so maybe try to do it once out of five times, then twice, three times, etc. It sounds kind of stupid, but I've actually had it work for me. Taking the risk can be scary, but it will pay off.

Also, just looking more confident in general may help. Make sure you are standing up straight, and your chin is up, and all of that good stuff! =) Telling yourself you are confident, and even "pretending" you are confident can really help as well. You get used to feeling that way after a while, so it becomes easier and more natural, and you develop more confidence that way. People can tell the change in your actions too.

Also, take confidence in the fact that you are obviously a people person, and other people like you and take to you as well. Finding confidence in the things that you do well can also help. Just find some good things about yourself, and compliment yourself on them, and build yourself up a bit.

So, there's a couple ideas for you. Hopefully at least one of them will work!

Good luck! =)


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