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Ouch. That's a difficult one.

 
You could try telling her you're really busy, and then only pick up her calls every few days.  

Nothing horribly manipulative, just forcing a distance between you.

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she knows my schedule. she knows I work weekdays 7-noon and thats it.

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We've had a really rocky past. It was great at first, but once we became close she began to lean on me for emotional support-- she was extremely depressed, and was suicidal for months. I had to call the ambulance on her twice because she was like "alright, I gotta go now it's time to kill myself".

She's better now, but it's tainted between us. It's never gonna be the same fun, happy friendship it once was. She's made me feel so shitty about myself, more than any other person in the world. I can't hang out with her anymore.

That, and she's generally a very negative person and hates all of my friends.

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tell her you need some space and maybe you want to widen your circle of friends...

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This is probably it. I just wanted a way to let her down easy, and wanting more space is pretty much the most nonconfrontational way of doing it.

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Quote: from robdude at 10:34 am on July 19, 2008

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I have that problem, ignore her, don't respond for 3 days, then after that wait a week to respond, she will get the message she's bugging you.

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I've BEEN ignoring her (hence the two missed calls). But like she said, "she's persistent" and will call back three or four times in a day if I don't pick up the first time. It's not like she's going to find plans with someone else.

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Quote: from Micus at 4:32 pm on July 19, 2008

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She's made me feel so shitty about myself, more than any other person in the world. I can't hang out with her anymore.  

 That, and she's generally a very negative person and hates all of my friends.

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Tell her this. The simplest solutions are the best ones. Honesty is a nice thingy, too.

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Keep in mind, she's been on the verge of attempting suicide numerous times. If her BEST friend (one of the two friends she has) told her she makes him feel like shit, and he doesn't want to hang around her anymore, what do you think is going to happen?

I sense another spiraling into depression and potential suicide in the future.

This girl is unstable. I can't deal with it anymore and I want out, but I know if that happens it's potentially the end for her.

Her mental problems are either caused by puberty and will pass or they're serious and need professional attention. In any case, I don't see the point in your putting up with her and being badly influenced.

I may be biased since I'm negative about negative and depressed people, but to me it seems to be a 'me or her' choice. It isn't hard to guess which one I'm for.