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 Replies: 6 — Last Post July 6 6:24am by Anonymous
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| Don't ignore him at all. |
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( Anonymous )
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My ex and I broke up two weeks ago. Basically, he was an ass to me...didn't mean to be but still, he was a complete jerk. He still tells me that he loves me but says that he can't handle a long distance relationship. Boo hoo, he should have thought about that a year ago...but, no, he was certain he'd be willing to fight the world to be with me. Since then, I've deleted him from YIM, MySpace, and Facebook. Even still, I can see when he's on by looking at my contact list. I ignored him almost all day Friday, didn't say a word to him yesterday (logged on invisible), and am tempted to ignore him again today. Honestly, I'm pissed off with him...now that I'm rethinking things, how I was always the one running after him, how he took me for granted, how he treated me, how he talked to me...I want to make him worry, I want to hurt him the way he hurt me. Cruel, I know, but at least I'm not crying and I'll take any break that I can get. Part of me wants to hurt him but another part of me also just wants him to understand what I felt/feel so maybe he'll treat me better, even as just a friend. I want him to change but, clearly, he can only do that if he wants to...so if I ignore him, he'll either change because he misses me or I'll move on anyways. But, at the same time, I'm afraid I'll lose him entirely, even as a friend...assuming that I can even stand to have him around without getting irritated with him... Ignoring him makes me feel guilty, though, sometimes...because I know he logs on hoping I'll be around and always says that he loves me and misses me.  I also feel at least partly responsible for how he acted...because I spoiled him. He was much better before I started babying him so I've basically created a monster...and am wondering if a person can UNcreate one...  Despite all the above, I'm also worried that sticking around is hurting me anyways...because he keeps me hoping but never gives me what I want. That can't exactly be healthy for any future relationships...having the ex hanging around telling you that he loves you... Feels like maybe he should take the initiative to try and contact me...
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( Anonymous )
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Yeah, he is sort of wishy washy...weak, actually. One moment, he's ready to fight for you, the next, he's ready to bawl. Just when you think things are going to improve, they take a nosedive. It's been like this since we broke up, even...wouldn't you expect that sort of thing to stop? I mean, shit, it's been two weeks and he still can't seem to decide which way he wants to go and it's really fucking me up...I cry, I get mad, I get cuddly, etc. It's like a cycle...I'm affectionate with him which leads to me feeling neglected which leads to me feeling sad which leads to me feeling mad...then I exhaust myself and go around the ring again.
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Duke
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She's as wishy-washy as he is. It's not about love, it's about lonliness, competition and recreating the past. Face it, the long distance is just one of the problems of your relationship, and no matter what else happens with the other issues, the long distance will always be there. If you want to convince yourself that this is love (highly unlikely), then do so, stop hiding and just deal with the fallout. If on the other hand, you realize it's just another over-blown internet I love you, I want to marry you and be together forever teen drama, then stop hiding, and just don't get so wrapped up in the hyperbolic teen love crap. Just keep your perspective, stop sitting around being pissed because this can't/won't/isn't going to lead anywhere, that you're not going to get married, and this is just another teen fling that will pass in due course as will many others in your life. Just enjoy what you got, and get over this notion that some internet relationship is going to lead to a real life relationship.
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6:19 am on July 6, 2008 | Joined Aug. 2007 | 164 Days Active
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( Anonymous )
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It WAS a real life relationship, smartass, he got kicked out of school for shooting his mouth off and it all got fucked up. His Mom won't let him come back, she's making him live at home and he's afraid to stand up to her. And I'm not "wishy washy" because I don't like being walked on and taken for granted, don't be stupid. Why should I have to call him and IM him and email him and text him while he just sits there and takes it all in, changes his mind, cries one day, is happy the next? He's got a brain, he's got fingers, he's got a laptop, he's got a phone, why the fuck am I doing all the chasing still? It's not about competition, it's about having a goddamn backbone. What the fuck would you think if you were always calling your gf/ex, always worrying about her, always thinking about her...but she couldn't find the time or the heart to call you and say, "Hey, what's up, how are things?" If you're the sort of idiot who takes that sort of shit, who does all the work, keeps up the contact, while the chick does nothing, that's your own stupidity.
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No, you shouldn't ignore him. That's kind of immature. He's just being truthful with you, I can't handle a long distance relationship myself either. 
