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Quote: from Duke at 1:30 am on July 9, 2008

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I like how everybody talks about how guilt is going to affect her, but nobody seems to address the idea that she claims he's her boyfriend so what about simple concepts of honesty, respect and so forth. To me, it's not about whether she's going to feel guilty (that one's debatable anyway), but about whether she owes him an obligation to do the right thing. She's already failed him in one obligation, is she prepared to fail him in yet another?

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Very well thought out, I actually like this answer the best, so far. Even if you are somewhat trashing me, I like the thought.

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I am not "somewhat trashing" you. I am simply stating the facts as you state them. You claim he's your boyfriend, which in my world at least carries the obligation that you don't go around having sex with other guys. You did not honor that obligation. Also in my world, a relationship carries with it an obligation of honesty, respect, communication and trust, among others. If you don't tell him what you did, then you are failing another obligation that comes with being in a relationship. How is that trashing you? I'm not judging you, I'm stating facts.

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 3:34 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Duke at 1:30 am on July 9, 2008

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I like how everybody talks about how guilt is going to affect her, but nobody seems to address the idea that she claims he's her boyfriend so what about simple concepts of honesty, respect and so forth. To me, it's not about whether she's going to feel guilty (that one's debatable anyway), but about whether she owes him an obligation to do the right thing. She's already failed him in one obligation, is she prepared to fail him in yet another?

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 Very well thought out, I actually like this answer the best, so far. Even if you are somewhat trashing me, I like the thought.

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I am not "somewhat trashing" you. I am simply stating the facts as you state them. You claim he's your boyfriend, which in my world at least carries the obligation that you don't go around having sex with other guys. You did not honor that obligation. Also in my world, a relationship carries with it an obligation of honesty, respect, communication and trust, among others. If you don't tell him what you did, then you are failing another obligation that comes with being in a relationship. How is that trashing you? I'm not judging you, I'm stating facts.

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hey, I said I like it the best. Trashing me in the fact that  I can't carry out my 'Oblogations' as a girlfriend. I posted this bulletin to ask for peoples opinions, and yours is the only one that has some sense in it. I didn't know what to do, I was confused. Does that clear everything up with you.

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Well tell me this one thing then, do you think you fulfilled your obligations as a girlfriend?

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Honestly? I don't know what those should be.

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Quote: from Duke at 1:52 am on July 9, 2008

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Well tell me this one thing then, do you think you fulfilled your obligations as a girlfriend?

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Honestly? I don't know what those should be.

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Well apparently not. But let's try a simple one. Don't you think not having sex with other guys might just be a teensy-weensy, reasonable obligation of being a girlfriend?

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 3:54 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Duke at 1:52 am on July 9, 2008

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Well tell me this one thing then, do you think you fulfilled your obligations as a girlfriend?

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 Honestly? I don't know what those should be.

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Well apparently not. But let's try a simple one. Don't you think not having sex with other guys might just be a teensy-weensy, reasonable obligation of being a girlfriend?

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Apparently not, thanks for telling me something I already know. I feel guilty yes, but do I really want to hurt someone I love just because I like someone else.

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Quote: from Duke at 1:57 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 3:54 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Duke at 1:52 am on July 9, 2008

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Well tell me this one thing then, do you think you fulfilled your obligations as a girlfriend?

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  Honestly? I don't know what those should be.

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 Well apparently not. But let's try a simple one. Don't you think not having sex with other guys might just be a teensy-weensy, reasonable obligation of being a girlfriend?

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Apparently not, thanks for telling me something I already know. I feel guilty yes, but do I really want to hurt someone I love just because I like someone else.

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Quote: from Duke at 1:57 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 3:54 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Duke at 1:52 am on July 9, 2008

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Well tell me this one thing then, do you think you fulfilled your obligations as a girlfriend?

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  Honestly? I don't know what those should be.

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 Well apparently not. But let's try a simple one. Don't you think not having sex with other guys might just be a teensy-weensy, reasonable obligation of being a girlfriend?

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Apparently not, thanks for telling me something I already know. I feel guilty yes, but do I really want to hurt someone I love just because I like someone else.

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Well now you see, you're not making any sense. You said that you didn't know what the obligations of being a girlfriend are, not you sarcastically thank me for "telling me something I already know." So which is it, do you not know the obligations or is telling you that a reasonable obligation that you not go around having sex with other people something that you already know? Also, are you saying that not having sex with other people is not an obligation to being someone's girlfriend? Do you really want to hurt someone you "love" just because you like someone else? Well now child, see that's how it is in the big people's world. We sometimes have to make difficult choices. You made the choice that you would rather risk hurting the one you "love" for a few minutes of fun with the one you "like." Now those few minutes are up and you want to justify your choice with the old chestnut about I don't want to tell him because I don't want to hurt him. Yeah, cheaters have used that one down through time. Hey, it's your choice. You asked what to do,  I gave you my advice. What you do with it is up to you. Just keep in mind, you've already hurt the relationship, and although he might not know it yet, you've hurt him too.

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I don't go around screwing other people for fun, it was one guy, it was an accident, ok. Does that get through your brain, you stupid ass, when someone compliments you, you take it and except it, (and incase you've forgotten I said that the first answer you posted was good) are you going to trash me some more or are you going to just shut up. If you've cheated on someone one before than I apologize for calling you an ass, but if not. THEN FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Oh I love it. The anger bit. So when you had sex with this other guy ACCIDENTALLY, it wasn't for fun? Why should I care about your complimenting me. I'm here to exchange ideas and answer questions when I can. You accused me of trashing you. I'm just trying to understand how I'm trashing you. Now you've backed yourself into a corner, and you cannot rationally answer the questions, so you resort to tantrums and name calling. But the question is not whether I'm an ass or whether you should fuck me, but a real simple one. Do you not understand one of the obligations of being a girlfriend to be not having sex with other people? That's easy enough. Then if you do understand that to be one of the obligations, did you not fail in honoring that obligation? You just don't want to face up to what you set in motion, and you avoid the questions by name calling and FUCK YOU's. Well that nice, but it doesn't faze me. I still would like to know your answers.

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 4:14 am on July 9, 2008

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I don't go around screwing other people for fun, it was one guy, it was an accident, ok. Does that get through your brain, you stupid ass,  when someone compliments you, you take it and except it, (and incase you've forgotten I said that the first answer you posted was good) are you going to trash me some more or are you going to just shut up. If you've cheated on someone one before than I apologize for calling  you an ass, but if not. THEN FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Oh I love it. The anger bit. So when you had sex with this other guy ACCIDENTALLY, it wasn't for fun? Why should I care about your complimenting me. I'm here to exchange ideas and answer questions when I can. You accused me of trashing you. I'm just trying to understand how I'm trashing you. Now you've backed yourself into a corner, and you cannot rationally answer the questions, so you resort to tantrums and name calling. But the question is not whether I'm an ass or whether you should fuck me, but a real simple one. Do you not understand one of the obligations of being a girlfriend to be not having sex with other people? That's easy enough. Then if you do understand that to be one of the obligations, did you not fail in honoring that obligation? You just don't want to face up to what you set in motion, and you avoid the questions by name calling and FUCK YOU's. Well that nice, but it doesn't faze me. I still would like to know your answers.

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I was raped ok, I didn't want to pose a big issue, because some of my friends have accounts here. Is that a good enough answer for you, are you happy. I will resort to swearing, FUCK OFF!!!

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Quote: from Duke at 2:21 am on July 9, 2008

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Quote: from Erin Puff at 4:14 am on July 9, 2008

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I don't go around screwing other people for fun, it was one guy, it was an accident, ok. Does that get through your brain, you stupid ass, when someone compliments you, you take it and except it, (and incase you've forgotten I said that the first answer you posted was good) are you going to trash me some more or are you going to just shut up. If you've cheated on someone one before than I apologize for calling you an ass, but if not. THEN FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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 Oh I love it. The anger bit. So when you had sex with this other guy ACCIDENTALLY, it wasn't for fun? Why should I care about your complimenting me. I'm here to exchange ideas and answer questions when I can. You accused me of trashing you. I'm just trying to understand how I'm trashing you. Now you've backed yourself into a corner, and you cannot rationally answer the questions, so you resort to tantrums and name calling. But the question is not whether I'm an ass or whether you should fuck me, but a real simple one. Do you not understand one of the obligations of being a girlfriend to be not having sex with other people? That's easy enough. Then if you do understand that to be one of the obligations, did you not fail in honoring that obligation? You just don't want to face up to what you set in motion, and you avoid the questions by name calling and FUCK YOU's. Well that nice, but it doesn't faze me. I still would like to know your answers.

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I was raped ok, I didn't want to pose a big issue, because some of my friends have accounts here. Is that a good enough answer for you, are you happy. I will resort to swearing, FUCK OFF!!!

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