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I think my friend cuts herself...
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Replies: 7Last Post Dec. 2, 2008 10:34am by Deadman15
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I am making this anonymous so that if she clicks on my profile this topic will not pop up.

Okay so I have made this friend this year, lets call her Daisy. Well Daisy is pretty cool. I mean she is really smart and has a lot of potential for things. She and I just barely became friends but then she began to ask me about cutting. See I too am a cutter (well I stopped) but I used to do it chronically. She asks me what my parents think and all this stuff and is asking things that only a cutter would want to know. So I am wondering, should I just straight out and say something like "If you cut just know that I am here for you. I know how hard it is to stop believe me, but I just want you to feel safe and no longer need to do it."
Or should I just wait until she tells me? Personally I just wanted someone that did cut to help me out when I was cutting. but IDK what do you think would be the best situation?


4:22 pm on Dec. 1, 2008
joziah


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doesnt it still show up if its anon?

and just ask? when she asks

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Yeah you could tell her that. Good luck

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Go with your gut feeling.

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Quote: from joziah at 4:23 pm on Dec. 1, 2008

doesnt it still show up if its anon?

and just ask? when she asks


That would defeat the anon feature if it did............

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Quote: from Love Today at 4:27 pm on Dec. 1, 2008

Quote: from joziah at 4:23 pm on Dec. 1, 2008

doesnt it still show up if its anon?  

 and just ask? when she asks


That would defeat the anon feature if it did............

No it doesn't show up. It only shows up if she is logged onto my profile. Otherwise she will never know that I wrote this.

4:28 pm on Dec. 1, 2008
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Hello.

I can see your problem here. It's a tough situation to be in. We all want too be here for our friends when they have problems.

I do think you should talk too her and let her know that you're worried about her. Explain that the questions she asked have worried you and your concerned for her well-being. Its important that she knows she has a friend that is there for her if she is cutting.

Also, she may not be cutting at all. She could have just wanted too ask these questions for some reason. But whatever she asked those questions for, its important for you too talk too her and let her know you are her for her if she needs anything.

Best of luck. Message me anything if you would like too talk.

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Well,

It's a tough situation to be in. But the way it seems you might want to talk to her about this. Let her know that no matter what you are their for her. That way she knows that if she is having a problem which in this case is cutting that she will be able to come to you without being pushed away as an outcast. But you could also let her know that some of the questions she asks has you thinking she may be a cutter and she may get uncomfortable that is when you tell her you were as well a cutter and she may feel alot more comfortable and can confide in you over this matter.

But, this could also be an instance to where you might want to wait for her to tell you. Like i said just let her know your their for her and she may just tell you and then you can open up and be a real friend to her. Because, alot of cutters which i as well was one over 2 years ago and it was mainly brought on by some kind of depression and i didn't want to tell anyone, but then i found out the girl i was dating was one and i felt more comfortable in talking to her about it and it helped a great deal.

Hopefully i helped ^^

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