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Whyyy Can't a Straight Female & Straight Male just be FRIENDS. |
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 Replies: 16 — Last Post Oct. 11 7:56pm by K SUN
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( Anonymous )
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Everything is ruined. Long story short, I was sexually abused when I was younger. . .and have no trust for straight males, and I surround myself with gay males. A few months ago, I met this straight guy through a friend. . .and we became REALLY close. . .not 'I like you more then a friend' close. . .but just really good friends. . .and the reason I have no stronger feelings for him is because he is 14 and I'm 19, and the reason I've really stayed friends with him is because of how damn mature he is, he can old a proper 'adult' conversation with me which is more then I can say about my other friends, but basically, I would tell him everything, stuff I don't even tell my actual best friend, and he tells me everything. We're both going through depression, and we've been able to confide in each other, and he's been the first person in my life I've been able to trust. . .I don't even trust my family as much as I trust him. Tonight, everything has been ruined. Tonight he confessed having very strong feelings for me. . .though I am very flattered by his gesture, I honestly don't feel anything for him but friendship, and I just know, from the things he has said to me. . .he is going to be quiet upset once he finds out I have no interest in him. . .which is going to make everything awkward. I just really don't want to lose the friendship I have with him, and I know it's going to change. . .is there any way possible I can fix this without hurting him & destroying the friendship I so desperatly need?
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XxRubberDuckiexX
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I've got ALOT of straight guy friends. I guess it's because I don't like the drama that comes with hanging with other girls. But straight guys and girls CAN be friends. It's just sometimes they fall for eachother..which is common, I guess. But you can be just friends :)
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italianfire
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well just let him n=know how u feel and tell him that u think of him as a close friend
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i feel hurt from all the pain
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Lulamae
Wealthy Hobo
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They can be, but...sometimes we girls give of a vibe that really is just friendly, but can be interpreted as more.
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Doghouse
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because why be friends with the opposite sex if you're not gonna fuck 'em? thats what the same sex is for.
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Check yo self foo!
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SkateboardBabe
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I can assure you that the last thing he will want is for you to suddenly lose contact with him. Even if you tell him that you don't have the same feelings, he will probably accept it and let things return to how things used to be. The only person interpreting things the other way is likely to be you because you now know his confession. JUst tell him how you feel and tell him that you don't want to lose him.
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I named myself 'Skateboardbabe'!?
...I can't even skateboard! Not denying the 'babe' part though JOKES
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energizerbunny
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one of my best friends is a straight male. we work as friends because i like monogamous relationships and he enjoys life as a player.
so we just love eachother as bffs, of course ill always be a threat to his flings and he'll probably be a threat to my long term boyfriends
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whiteregit
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Quote: from SkateboardBabe at 11:22 am on Oct. 11, 2008
 I can assure you that the last thing he will want is for you to suddenly lose contact with him. Even if you tell him that you don't have the same feelings, he will probably accept it and let things return to how things used to be. The only person interpreting things the other way is likely to be you because you now know his confession. JUst tell him how you feel and tell him that you don't want to lose him. 
i agree witht his one most, but ya and i doubt he'll want to loose contact with you even if he thinks it'll be awkward and such. so just tell him how you feel about everythng and im sure he'll understand
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richteabiscuits
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Just tell him how it is. And if he's as good a friend as you say he is, then he won't let it ruin your friendship.
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( Anonymous )
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Quote: from Natsy at 12:03 pm on Oct. 11, 2008
Quote: from Anonymous at 5:34 pm on Oct. 11, 2008
Quote: from Natsy at 9:30 am on Oct. 11, 2008
Quote: from Anonymous at 5:27 pm on Oct. 11, 2008
Quote: from Natsy at 9:21 am on Oct. 11, 2008
:/ i seem to have nothing BUT straight male friends... fucking hell.
just because he has feelings for you, it doesn't mean that he'll act on them.
He has asked me to be with him. . .I just haven't quite given him a straight answer yet because I don't know what to do.
didn't you say he's 14 and you're 19...? 
Correct. He doesn't care about the age difference.
do you?
I do, it's kind of a little wrong. . .though not illegal here, well, a girl can't be prosecuted for dating a younger male if they're the age of 14. . .unless you're a teacher etc. But that's not the point, I simply don't like him that way.
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