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Not really.

I think it takes more effort than that.

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I don't buy into that nonsense at all, and I have the wit to be romantic without having to bullshit about how a girl and I are destined for each other.

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Soul mates are for the hopeless romantic, and the guy trying to persuade his girlfriend into having sex wih him.

I don't buy into that nonsense at all, and I have the wit to be romantic without having to bullshit about how a girl and I are destined for each other.

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I disagree fully.  I am far from a hopeless romantic, and my "soulmate" has already gotten sex from me, so that doesn't even come into the equation.

I think only the people who find their soulmates, will truely ever believe it.

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I disagree fully. I am far from a hopeless romantic, and my "soulmate" has already gotten sex from me, so that doesn't even come into the equation.

I think only the people who find their soulmates, will truely ever believe it.

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I've experienced what it's like to meet somebody and feel as if you've known them your whole life.  I've been in extended relationships where we thought we were destined for each other.  I know the whole ordeal.

Fact is, there is no one single person you are destined for.  Why is it that you can absolutely love one person and if they die, wind up loving someone else?  Why is it that you can feel "in love" with somebody, break up, only to find that you have te exact same, but likely stronger, feelings when you are with your "soul mate?"

You can love anyone, provided the right circumstances and mutual attraction (or vibe, however you'd like to put it).  Anybody can be your "soul mate.'  To tell the person you're with that you're their soul mate is nothing more than hopelessly romantic bullshit, like it or not.

I do believe in "sole mates", though, an idea of a person I carefully choose, and who chooses me, for us to "walk together", to lovingly live life together.

You can love multiple people in your lifetime, but you only have one soulmate.  If you find them, you find them, if you do not, you don't.  

It is far from hopeless romantic bullshit.  I know I have found my soulmate.  I don't need to tell him that, for him to know that he is.  As it goes like that both ways.

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Just because you can love someone, does not make them your soul mate.  You can be absolutely in love with someone, and they not be your soul mate, they die, and you can end up falling in love with the person that is or is not your soulmate.  There is no guarantee that you will find your soulmate, or that you will realize that they are your soulmate.  Some people will be friends with their soulmate and never know that they were meant for each other.

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So, your own words, what exactly is your "soul mate?"    

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It is far from hopeless romantic bullshit.  I know I have found my soulmate.  I don't need to tell him that, for him to know that he is.  As it goes like that both ways.

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Keep telling yourself that.

Post edited at 8:41 pm on Oct. 15, 2008 by Bud2400

I don't need to keep telling myself anything.  I know it is a fact.  Keep telling yourself it isn't real.  I will remain happy knowing that the person I am with is my soulmate, and that even if one of us dies, or we divorce at some point in our lives that he is still my soulmate.  The person that is my "other half".

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Your soulmate is exactly what it says.  The person that you are meant to be with.  The other half of yourself.  It doesn't mean that you will find them.  It's all free will.  That person is here, but whether or not you make it happen is up to you.

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So if you love somebody else, marry them, and have a great life with them, and they complete you in every way, they're your soul mate, correct? Is it not possible to feel the same way toward someone who's not your soul mate? Or would that defeat the entire purpose?

Tell me this. If everyone were to subscribe to the notion that soul mates exist, who in a relationship, marriage, or whatever is not going to talk about how their significant other is their soul mate and that it's somebody they don't know or don't love? Who's going to even admit to that possibility?  And when a breakup / divorce occurs, who's not going to say that they were mistaken? The entire notion of who is your soul mate and who is not is so circumstantial that it's essentially meaningless.

The fact that wonderful relationships / marriages can come about after the ending of great ones and completely fulfills these people totally contradicts the entire notion of one single person you're destined to be with.

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I don't need to keep telling myself anything.  I know it is a fact.

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Facts are only facts when they can be universally agreed on.

You and your boyfriend being soul mates is nothing but conjecture on your part.

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I will remain happy knowing that the person I am with is my soulmate, and that even if one of us dies, or we divorce at some point in our lives that he is still my soulmate.  The person that is my "other half".

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I am happy for you.

Post edited at 8:55 pm on Oct. 15, 2008 by Bud2400

I don't have a boyfriend, and by your theory, you have nothing but opinion, and no truth either.

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There are many married people who will tell you that they love their spouse, but don't believe in soulmates, or know the person is not their soulmate.

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If this is the case, and they truly feel completed by their spouse, but they're supposedly not soul mates with them, then what exactly is the significance of a soul mate?

You must remember, people use the term soul mate as if they're destined for each other and that this somehow makes a relationship more special.  But if it really adds nothing except for the simple fact that they're supposedly destined for each other, then what practical significance does it have?

You may as well pair up every single person in the world with some other random person.  More likely than not, they won't find them, but if they do somehow cross paths and the pairing up means nothing, would it matter that they were paired up or not?

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No it doesn't. You can love more than one person. It doesn't mean that you cannot have a soulmate. Your first husband or wife could have been your soulmate, but you can still live a happy life with someone else, but that doesn't mean that the first was not your soulmate.

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So again, please enlighten me as to what is the significance of a soul mate?  If I can live as happily with somebody who is not my soul mate as I would with someone who is, why would the concept matter anymore?

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I don't have a boyfriend

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My apologies for assuming.

Post edited at 9:13 pm on Oct. 15, 2008 by Bud2400