I love my friends, but I wish they'd be more outgoing. It's my fault too, for not reaching out to different crowds more during freshman year. But it's also the luck of the draw: most people tend to be closest friends with their hallmates, and some halls were more party-hearty than others. Mine wasn't, at least the people I liked.

But Halloween is coming up. There's a big party on Friday, and hopefully, I will have enough to courage to make something happen. I don't even want sex; I just want to be able to bring a girl up to my room and just make out all night.

It's really up to you.  Personally, I like being a pretty boring person, and I hate the idea of partying, and I'm happy with that.  Maybe your fiends are similar to me.

And overall, just make sure you don't focus so much on doing things before you're 21 such that you end up doing something you seriously regret later, right?

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Girls hate nice guys, as much as they deny it, its the truth.

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Ha!

I much rather a gentleman, than an ass.

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*Forever & Always...Yours*

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Quote: from rockerpunk at 9:49 am on Oct. 25, 2008

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nothing wrong with being a virgin...some girls like that....rather then a man whore

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Any girls will say they prefer a man with experience, you don't have to be an STD ridden man-whore to have sexual experience. top making things up.

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Totally untrue.  Don't make horrible generalizations, please.

My bf and I started going out a year ago, during our freshman year of high school.  When I found out he wasn't a virgin, I totally freaked out.  I mean, he doesn't know I was so freaked out, but I was.  I still wish he had been a virgin so we could have experienced everything together, you know?  I was always worrying I wouldn't be able to measure up his past experiences, because I didn't know what the hell I was doing!

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First of all, it isn't unusual to find an older guy who's a virgin. I actually know a few guys in their mid-twenties who haven't had sex (and they're not losers). The guys that get laid all the time are usually jerks and part of a certain crowd (frat guys, jocks, student government people, partiers). As stereotypical as that sounds, it's true. The girls they hook up with also tend to be the same (slutty, heavy drinkers, partiers, social climbers).

Get out of these groups and you'll find virginity isn't uncommon.

Maybe you're looking for girls in the wrong places. Try going to classy places, get your friends to introduce you to someone they think you'd like/vice versa.

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I think I have to start being more sexually aggressive and unapologetic.

I was fortunate in having a girl take me in hand at a young age and show me the ropes so I didn't come off as hesitant or shy. Girls can sense this. You need to find a girl slightly older and experienced and just frankly tell her you want some lessons. I've had several friends who have done this and it worked out well and turned their lives around socially.